Deal with People

How to Deal with People or Put your idea in others mind :

Before you go for any deal or meet with unknown person make sure you divide your time and you are preplanned.

 1) First get information about that person, his likes, his hates.
2) Divide you time in 4 phase
a) Phase one: Your self introduction and why you came to meet that person, what you like in that person and why you choose him to meet.
b) Phase two: Ask Him personal question for example which is his hometown, or from where he did his education, once he answered just co-related something with him. Suppose I ask someone from where he did his education and he replied he completed his Diploma from Mumbai. Just say him oh is it. I too was in Mumbai for my childhood education for a while and I see that place from where you did your diploma.
c) Phase three: One he finish, start with smile and now it’s your turn to hit the target.
Don’t allow him now to speak, complete your own presentation. Present yourself and dig your eyes in his eye don’t allow him to look anywhere else. Add some appreciation comments about him while you talk. Add some funny comments. To make your presentation more excited. Try to sync his mind with yours. Don’t fallow him let him fallow you.
d) Phase four: Now ask him how it is, and ask him his idea, but before asking him first tell him the same thing you explained 10 Guys and they like it like anything. And tell him only one people don’t like this because he already told us that he is not having that much sound knowledge in this area.so this idea is just for sound people like you.
Some Basic Theory: Guys in this section let’s do some simple analysis and suggestions from Dhiraj Rajput. May be my all analysis won’t come true for few people But dam sure it will help you to improve what is Improvement? : The way of Your Presentation, Yes Presentation of yourself.
Some Basic Idea:
• See everyone want see the world what he would like to see.

Explanation: Younger generation People like Roam around, adventure, happiness. Love life, Friends, enjoyment, few dreams in their Eyes. Older age Generation People like some stabilization, Few Friends to share the experience, always wanted to guide people, in a hunt of Respect.

Poor Fellows: People who are poor from their eyes Rich people are Rude, attitude fellows.
Rich People: from rich people point of view they think poor people are stupid (life wasting)
Same region : suppose you are out of India and if you meet some Indian fellow abroad India, you always wanted to meet , talk , share all with that person only ( in short he/she will be your favorite people ) Why because you feel that particular person is as like you. He/she can understand your all problem and happiness what other cant.
Religion: the same thing can go for same religion, if you are living other religious people colony and someday you come to know that, same religious fellow come to your colony, off course you will be like relator, just because of same religion.

Why you know?

Because in that person you find same thing what you have. So always we are hunting a person who is same like us. So mean is here everyone like someone who is like them.
First Impression is last impression: If you are having meeting with someone, if you are well prepared then only ask him for meeting or else postponed the plan.
Look: Make sure you look bright, keep smile on your chicks always, because always its matter of look. Dress sense is also matter.
1) So my suggestion is before dealing with people understand them. Make them talk first so you can get some time to plan yourself. Here you need to catch rhythm. You need to decide which way you need to start. While that person talking don’t listen his words just listen his behavior and his mental condition. Try to understand what he expect from you.

How to understand and what to understand.

a) First try to understand the particular person with whom you want to deal something.
b) Let him speak first, you just focus to look in his Eyes.
c) Make sure you are just looking that persons eyes only.
d) Understand his way of talking, if while talking he is looking down to floor or somewhere else, it means he is not much interested and you have to work hard.
e) If the person taking long breaks while talking, it means there is space for you but he is not 100% agree with your ideas.

f) If the person speaking fast, straight forward it means he already decided what he has to do with you.

g) IF someone is smiling while you talk it means he thinks you are just like kid or he is a big shot and you are very little kid in front of him. He just wanted to make a fun of yours.

Act accordingly:

Once you understand person it’s very easy to deal with them. Now my suggestions and answers on above understanding points.

a) If a person looks down to floor or somewhere else
Don’t worry it means you have space but he is not 100% interested he just want you to finish your talk. Start questions may be some personal questions, Start some joking and make him fresh to listen. Correlate you with him. Make him in your favor like you are struggling and you need that person assistance. See the result.

b) If person is taking long breaks while talking with you
It means though he is agree with you but he has a lot troubles to meet your expectation is. For such people you need to boost their morale. Tell him people like him are the inspiration for all other fellows. Once you boost him. See the result.

c) If person is speaking fast it means he won’t allow you and he predefined the things.
Don’t worry in such case, don’t allow them to talk a lot, start yourself. Because such kind of people want everything to be wind up and they want to discussed on their points only.

1. So give them minimum time and express yourself in such a way that, they are wrong. Give them a huge amount of examples, compare these people with others, show them that they are doing a wrong thing, and gave them example like . see two years back the same thing happened and finally result is this. Even though they try this thing now it will affect their image. In short demoralized them, and ask them a single chance. See the result.

d) If someone is smiling while you are talking.
Such kind of people won’t agree even though you do your level best. Don’t worry this kind of people think you are stupid.

What is the solution: reverse psychology? Tell them whatever you want to explain them, that you don’t want, even you don’t like this idea a lot, even this thing is not that much up to the mark. He will change because anyway such kind of people is just to oppose you.
So if you say you like sweet they will say no I like spices. So if you want to agree them on sweet say you don’t like sweet. Because sweet is bad, they will oppose you and say no we like sweet only.

Finally Guys, Everyone is unique in this world but I tried my level best and I did 2 years of analysis on people. My recent 2 month analysis make me somewhat perfect to write this.
If you go by this way am sure you can deal with people.

I would like to be more appreciable if you give me some feedback on my analysis.